My Life Views

My Life Views

Train your mind to see the good in everything.

My life views. This blog is probably not what you think it's going to be about. I'm not going to preach to you about why you should believe in God or why you should be vegan or have certain beliefs or values. Although many of those aspects of my life contribute to why I view and think about things the way I do, they don't dictate my mindset. Throughout my life I have not viewed things the way I do now, or had this thought process. It took me a long time to get to the place where I am now. I see things so much clearer, I can deal with things in a rational way, and I'm genuinely happy and I'm going to tell you what the hell my "life views" are and why they make all the difference between a good life, and a bad one. 

When I think about the word "life" I think about all things living and breathing. When you think about the life that we have, we are given about 90-100 years to do whatever we want and essentially what we do in those years of life is up to us. It is so easy to say "just be positive" or "be kind to others". For someone with anxiety, sometimes it's extremely hard to not have a negative mindset, and to be honest with certain things, I do. Another problem my anxiety causes me is that sometimes I look like a complete bitch because I will just stand there and stare at people and not say anything. I don't look like a kind person when I'm experiencing anxiety, I feel overwhelmed and don't know what to say or how to act. Other then these few moments in my life I try my hardest to live by being kind, being positive and loving. I truly believe that the life we live is largely impacted on our mindset. So change your mindset, and you can change your life. 

Let's start with being kind. To be honest sometimes I'm kind of pushover. I'll do things for people that I really don't want to do, because I want to make them happy. Don't get me wrong, I would never let doing things for others consume me and make me unhappy. I like to see the people around me be happy. Sometimes I look at strangers and genuinely hope they are happy. I never want people to experience pain or sadness. I know that this is unrealistic, for everyone to always be happy. But if I can make someone happy, or make their day a little better then why wouldn't I? Extending kindness to those around you will not only help others, but it will help you. At the end of the day can you look in the mirror knowing you upset someone and possibly ruined their day? I know that I can't. I'd rather look in the mirror and know that even one of the small things I did could have helped someone have a better day. So smile, hold the door open for a stranger, be nice to those around you. When you send out kindness into the world, you will get kindness back. Another aspect of being kind is watching your words. It is so easy to say something mean in the heat of the moment, and attacking someone because they're attacking you or said something you didn't like. When you use words that are degrading or hurtful, you're just as bad as the person who said them to you first. The thing about words is that when you say them, you know what you are trying to say but the receiver doesn't. You might have been joking about something, but to them it could be something they're really insecure about. So why say anything bad at all? You don't gain anything by being hurtful to others, but you could gain a lot by keeping your mouth shut and being the bigger person. Think before you speak, and be kind with your words.  

Be positive. Obviously, you can't do this all the time. Having a positive outlook on life makes things so much better. Knowing that a bad moment is just that, a moment, can really help you move on from things. Things DO in fact get better. Remember that one time you were freaking out and thought it was the end of the world? Now that you look back it seems so small and insignificant compared to all the other things in life. Be positive when you wake up, be positive when you go to take a test, be positive when thinking about the outcomes of events in your life. No one ever got through life thinking that it all sucks and nothing works out. This might be a shocker to some of you but generally people like to be around other people who have good attitudes. As someone who feeds off of the energy of those around me, I like to surround myself with fun, happy, genuine people and I'm sure most of you feel the same way. Being positive for me isn't saying oh yeah I'm totally going to get into the best graduate program ever, but saying that I know it will work out if I work hard enough and go into it with a good attitude. It's so easy to think of the bad things in life, and honestly when you do it can consume you. When stuff like this happens to me I like to think "before this moment I was happy" and I think of all the reasons why I was happy. Being positive doesn't mean that everything in life is perfect, it just means you're choosing to see beyond the imperfections and look at the glass half full instead of half empty.

The last thing kind of ties it all together in my opinion and that is to be loving. And it's pretty simple. Love the world you live in. Love your family and friends. Love nature, animals and the life you were given. And most importantly, love yourself. Love is literally the most amazing thing in the world. I honestly believe that the feeling of love can help you overcome anything. 

Never speak from a place of hate, jealousy, anger or insecurity. Evaluate your words before you let them leave your lips. Sometimes it’s best to be quiet.

Overall, I want to live every day of my life to the fullest. Yeah sometimes that means taking a mental break and watching some Netflix in bed. But I want to do everything I can to be and stay happy, and make sure those around me are too. These concepts may seem so simple, but when you make a conscious effort to incorporate them into you're life more it really can make a difference. If this post helped spread a little happiness or positivity into at least one persons life then that's all I could ever ask for. I hope you guys are having an amazing day and as always, thank you so much for reading! 

Melinda

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