Dealing With Change
For most people, change is a scary thing because it means that we are put out of our comfort zone and something we were used to is no longer the same. A lot of change that we experience in life has to do with our friends & families, loss or death of loved ones, our careers, and our bodies. I recently went through a big change, okay it was like six months ago but in reality I still feel like I’m going through it.
I am currently a Junior in college and just transferred to a university in my home state after going out of state for two years. I went to school in Arizona and to be honest, I had the time of my life. I joined a sorority and made life long friends and had the most spontaneous and exciting memories (some I remember and some I don’t). The lifestyle in Arizona was completely different from what I was used to. Tanning, partying, being social, and school were all huge factors in my life there (and in that order). Unfortunately it was hard for me to do school when it felt like I was constantly on vacation. Sure I went to class and did my homework but I wasn’t as engaged in my school work and classes as I should have been. Eventually it all became too much. The lifestyle I was living just wasn’t real life, it wasn’t healthy and I knew something had to change. So I decided to transfer home to get my life in check and be closer to my family. Summer was fine because none of my friends were together, but as soon as I moved into my new apartment in August it hit me, I was alone. Okay, I wasn’t alone but all my friends I had just spent the last two years with were all together and I was missing out. I went from being in Greek life and constantly attending activities to do with Greek life, hanging out with friends, and living in a sorority house filled with 40 girls and someone to always to go to class with to what felt like no one. This change sucked. I was uncomfortable in my new situation and lacked motivation to go meet new people because I thought it would mean I was replacing my friends in Arizona. At some point I realized that they were still living their lives, so I had to also.
To be honest I’m still adjusting. I didn’t really stay in contact with a lot of friends from high school because in reality I left my home state to have a fresh start. So with my new major and my new classes, I did what any friendless person would do. I made friends in my classes. Luckily for me, my major is small and there are about 70 people in my classes and we take all of our classes together. A lot of the friends I’ve made are also transfer students which made the transition a lot easier knowing other people were going through something similar. Regardless of the fact that I miss my friends and life in Arizona, I know that this change was right for me. I’m a lot closer with my little sister than I ever was before and my friendships with people in Arizona have been validated or have decreased, but in the end I did find out who my true friends were.
For most of us, change starts out as a bad thing. So what do you do when you can’t go back to whats normal? You move on. It’s not something you can rush or snap you fingers and have happen, it takes time. For some people it takes more time than others, but in the end it usually works out and is almost always worth it. Just because something changes also doesn’t mean that door is closed forever. I’m visiting Arizona for spring break and I could not be more excited to see all my friends because I know when I’m back with them, it will feel like nothing ever changed.