Dating In College
Okay, here are the dirty secrets you really want to know about... my relationships. Everyone always says you meet your significant other in college, and as a junior that is single as hell, I might be falling behind. As a 20 year old I am at the age where I should be going on dates and thriving in general right? Wrong. I was unfortunate enough to be born into an era where people "swipe right" as a form of communication to say they're interested. Don't get me wrong I've been on tinder (for 5 minutes), before I realized I would only end up with chlamydia and no boyfriend and quickly deleted the app. But I'm skipping ahead, let's start at the beginning.
Two years ago I was a freshman in college, single and ready to mingle as they say. The freedom was awesome, no parents, no boyfriends, and essentially no rules. Shockingly I was asked on a number of dates my freshman year, and I say shocking because what guy was actually sober enough to ask me on a date. Apparently quite a few. Granted, they all ended with the guy trying to sleep with me and failing, I had some nice experiences. I think my favorite was when I went over to a guy's dorm after our date and he had another girls heels and skirt laying by his bed clearly from the night before. In my utter freshman stupidity, I believed him when he said they were from a girl who was "just a friend who lived down the hall". After I was dumb enough to believe that, we proceeded to make out and chat about where we were from and fun facts about ourselves. I was really into him until his fun fact was, "I have an average sized penis"...... I'm sorry what? We were just talking about dogs, while fully clothed I might add and he said that. Safe to say I was out of there faster than I'd ever ran at the gym and that was the end of that.
Sophomore year went by and I watched my friends fall in and out of relationships with guys that were too frat to commit to any girl (aka hooking up with your sorority sister behind your back). I met guys at parties and hung out with my guy friends (who were seriously just my friends), but nothing that would ever lead to a relationship. And I ended another school year single.
As I transferred back home, I figured since I was at a school that wasn't as much of a party school, I might meet a nice guy, fall in love and live happily ever after. Well, so far it hasn't happened. The few times I've been to the bars old men would buy me drinks and follow me around like a puppy (WHY DO I ATTRACT OLD PEOPLE). Don't get me wrong I'm fine with an older guy, just not one who could be my father or grandfather.
I know that it's not just me but girls want to be asked out (while sober), and treated like a lady. I'm not asking for you to be rich and take me to the nicest place in town. Be polite, open doors, compliment me. We all just want some one we can laugh, share a pizza, binge watch Netflix with and cuddle with. But lets not forget about the dating part of it, going out, experiencing life together and the cute gestures that go along with it. I've never been the type of girl who has all these freakish demands, I just want to be respected and not lied to.
Lucky for me, I have one of the best guy friends that a girl could ever ask for who constantly tells me, that the right guy will come along and that it's good that I have high standards. As I go on dates these next couple years I'll be waiting, sticking to my standards and remembering what I deserve because anything less than true love isn't something I'm going to settle for.