International Women's Day: Featuring Kim K
In honor of today being International Women's Day I thought I would share some of my thoughts and observations. First of all thanks mom for being the best woman I know and raising me the way you did. I wouldn't be the woman I am today, without you. Thanks for carrying me for 9 months and enduring all the pain of having me. Being a woman is a gift, as you get to bring another life into this world. I am in no way saying that being a man isn't hard, as I'm sure it is, but as a woman myself I find that I really appreciate when others notice the hardships we go through. So I'm going to share some of my thoughts on being a woman and our society today.
We see it everywhere "you're such a slut" or "you're fat", people trash women daily. Whether you're a celebrity or not, women are slut shamed, teased, scrutinized and belittled based on many things but especially their appearance. You hear people saying "men treat women as objects and are degrading and rude". While this can be true I think that there is a bigger problem: other women.
We act like it's some big competition to be better than other women and call each other names or make others feel less about themselves. NEWS FLASH: you're not perfect, so who are you to criticize someone else? That being said no one is perfect and we all have flaws, but that's what makes us human. Yesterday Kim Kardashian posted yet another naked selfie on twitter and it blew up. She also reposted it today with the hashtag "International Womens Day". While I don't think there is anything wrong with this, as everyone should be able to post whatever they want, I don't think that she should be using her power as a celebrity to do things like this and make a mockery of something that could be used for something positive. I think that posting a naked picture shows confidence, and that's a good message to spread (although this could of been done in many other ways). Again, I don't mind her posting a naked picture (we've already seen it all, LITERALLY ALL of it in her Prada spread). But after she posted this, some other celebrities commented on it. Her comments to these other people in their response to her picture wasn't necessary, and was just plain rude. Also might I add, poor North and Saint (those children are going to cry when they see these pictures one day).
I think that as women we need to build each other up, not bring each other down. I'm sure what Chloe said to Kim was hurtful in some way, making it seem like she's only good for her body just because she posted that. We already have ourselves as our harshest critics and when you add other women, who are supposed to understand and feel your pain of having stretch marks or not always feeling confident, saying hurtful things and not supporting each other it really takes a toll. In my mind, if you want to post a naked selfie, POST A NAKED SELFIE, if you want to post progress pictures of your work out journey, or a picture of you in your bikini then do it.
I can remember the most hurtful comment's I've ever received have been from other women and that's just not okay. Be positive, build each other up, encourage the empowerment of other women. Your words can really affect others, people have committed suicide due to the words of others. People have developed eating disorders and depression due to the hurtful comments of their peers or even strangers. Love yourself and others for who they are, and remember that the things you say do have the power to hurt others. If someone's actions (posting a naked selfie) aren't hurting you then why are you commenting on it? If you don't like a picture someone posted then don't look at it. I think it really comes down to the lesson my mom taught me when I was little, "If you don't have anything nice to say then don't say it at all". This goes for everyone.